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How can I have lunch with the other side?

I’m sure we’ve always struggled with this but sometimes these days, it can feel as if, as a world, we’ve never been more divided. And with complex, life threatening, planet threatening problems to solve, it’s critical we find a way to come together somehow and meet across the widening chasm. Then the war in Ukraine happened and raised the stakes even higher. Interested in how to start thinking about building bridges rather than burning them, Elizabeth Lesser, cofounder of the Omega Institute, introduces here the idea of taking the ‘other’ to lunch. Put simply, take someone who doesn’t agree with you to lunch and ask them three things to really find out what’s in their hearts. The results can be transformational. https://www.ted.com/talks/elizabeth_lesser_take_the_other_to_lunch?language=en

Are you ok? Are you ok?

Lots of positive feedback for the podcast series Diary of a CEO – it is wonderful and definitely worth making time for each week. The recent episode with Roman Kemp is a must for anyone interested in mental health. He talked about a technique he uses with his family and friends of always asking ‘Are you ok?’ twice – once at the beginning of the conversation and once again at the end. The answers you’re likely to get will probably be very different… Have a listen here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_CLli3_Vlrc

How to kick wine o clock

Apparently 60-70% of what we do every day is a habit and since the pandemic, more days than not, a glass of wine has often been my marker between the work day at home and evening whilst I get on with cooking dinner. I’d been wanting to shift this habit for a while and recently read about the River Cottage team using kombucha as a wine replacement to challenge the same habit. We talk a lot about habits and habit development as part of the M of CALM and so I knew I needed to replace one habit with another for it to potentially stick and so I gave it a go for three weeks. And with the help of Lesley So and her beautiful homemade Kombucha, I’ve successfully made the shift from ‘wine o clock’ to ‘kombucha o clock’ – during week days anyway! Interested in trying it – click here https://sogoodkombucha.com/

How to find some freedom in a busy world

During school holidays my boundary is to disconnect from social media so I can be completely present with my family. Essential also for brain and body health, this is an important practice to develop – despite the fact that all external forces will be working against you in the opposite direction! Check out the freedom app if you’re struggling with this – you can sign up for a free trial and give yourself some headspace. In addition, there are huge benefits for productivity as by removing all of the ‘pings’ we can finally focus on the things that matter. Take a look here https://freedom.to/

How can I get my dance on for the people of Ukraine?

We’re on with another fundraiser to support the British Red Cross as they take on the mammoth task of dealing with the humanitarian crisis in Ukraine. I think we’ve all been through shock, anger, grief and compassion as we’ve watched this heartbreaking situation unfold on our screens. A group of us are attempting a 12 hour danceathon at the Kedleston Country House between 10am and 10pm on Sunday 24th April. We’ll have live music from some great local bands as we dance for Ukraine so come and join us for as long or as little as you like. Bring your children, bring your parents, bring someone you don’t know very well for a day out dancing. All we ask is a £5 donation per dancer. Click here to sign up, donate and for more details https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/dancingforukraine